Lawmaker who lost son urges suicide prevention training

SALT LAKE CITY — Rep. Mark Wheatley choked up during a House debate over a suicide prevention bill while talking about the death of his son two years ago.

The Murray Democrat said he was in his office at the Capitol on Dec. 1, 2009 when his wife called telling him their son was in the hospital with a faint heartbeat.

“I don’t even remember leaving the capitol,” he said. “I got to the University of Utah Hospital and I arrived too late. My son was already gone.”

A hush fell over the House floor as Wheatley spoke for the first time publicly about the day his 31-year-old son Mark Gregory Wheatley took his own life.

“I was deeply touched by it,” House Majority Leader Brad Dee, R-Ogden, said of Wheatley’s emotional speech. “He is just a genuine, genuine man.”

Even though his son was well beyond his teen years, Wheatley urged his colleagues to support a bill that would require public school teachers to undergo two hours of suicide prevention training every two years.

“There’s not a day that goes by that you don’t think about your children,” he said.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death in Utah behind auto accidents, said Rep. Eric Hutchings, R-Kearns, sponsor of HB501. “Anyone who has a kid in school understands how remarkably disturbing something like this can be,” he said.

“As we work on this bill right now there is funeral going on at my high school for a young man who took his own life,” said Rep. Paul Ray, R-Clearfield. Two Clearfield High students committed suicide this past week.

Ray called the proposed teacher training “extremely important. That life that is saved could be your own child. It could be neighbor. It could be a grandchild.”

Several House members opposed the bill because they consider it an unnecessary mandate.

“Can’t schools do this on their own?” said Rep. Jim Neilson, R-Bountiful.

Hutchings said they can but they haven’t. “I don’t know why they haven’t. That’s why I’m running the bill.”

After the House recessed for the morning, Wheatley said he wrestled with publicly talking about his son’s death even as the bill made it way up the board for debate. Even after he started speaking, he paused to keep his emotions in check. He said he decided to talk about in hopes it would help someone else.

His son took his life after he became depressed over losing his job, his house and struggling in his marriage, Wheatley said. He was the father of two children. Searching on Mark’s MySpace after his death, he said he came across the entry, my hero: my father.

Wheatley said that if the legislation has any chance of saving a life, it should pass “because ones heart never heals when you lose a child, you just learn how to deal with it.”


One comment

  1. Rich

    Our legislature is so proud of the fact that they want local control away from the feds and yet unfunded mandate after unfunded mandate the legislature assumes the role of local school districts and local schools. School districts do not need to be told to hold additional training on bullying and suicide prevention.
    Allow the professionals to lead and decide what students need in education. Quit writing laws that require more from a strapped education system without providing the funds to accomplish the basics let alone add-on mandates.

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